The arts of a good marriage

Looking for a beautiful reading for the wedding ceremony, something heartfelt for a speech or wedding toast, or a poem to include in a wedding program? Here's a popular piece known throughout the world called "The Art of Marriage" by Wilferd A. Peterson:

"The Art Of Marriage"
by Wilferd A. Peterson (short, popular version)
Compliments Of Erik & Beth Kent, Co-Publishers of NJWedding.com
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things...
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once each day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right partner...
It is being the right partner.
- by Wilferd Arlan Peterson

The Art of Marriage is an essay by Wilferd A. Peterson (published in THE NEW BOOK OF THE ART OF LIVING, Simon & Schuster, New York, copyright Wilferd Arlan Peterson, 1962, 1963; copyright Lilian Thorpe, 2004). Permission granted to NJWedding.com by the Heacock Literary Agency, Inc.

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